CHAPTER 9Read and Reflect
FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE
1. The chapter discusses the importance of proximity and similarity as factors in interpersonal attraction. Do you think it’s possible that these factors go together in the sense that people who live and work near you are likely to be similar to you as well? Can you think of some examples from your own experience that would support this notion?
2. What are the three steps of the friendship repair ritual? Can you see times that you have gone through any or all of these steps with a friend? Were the steps effective in repairing the friendship, or did the friendship dissolve?
3. The expression “opposites attract” suggests that people who are very different may be attracted to each other. In light of the discussion in this chapter of the importance of similarity in attraction, why do you think it is that opposites may be attracted to each other in some cases?
4. The chapter suggests that men tend to be more romantic than women, which is contrary to the traditional stereotype. Do you agree with this conclusion? Is it consistent with your own experience?
5. The textbook suggests that one reason relationships fail is the availability of a more attractive relationship. Does it seem fair to “bide your time” in an unsatisfying relationship until something better comes along? Do you think this is a conscious strategy for many people, or do you think this is something that could happen without one being aware of it?
6. In the chapter’s coverage of gender and friendships, it notes that it is likely that women’s
friendships are closer and more satisfying because they involve more self-disclosure— talking about personal problems, people, relationships, and feelings—in comparison to conversations within men’s friendships. Do you think that men’s friendships are less satisfying, or do men and women take different paths in forming equally close friendships among themselves? How so?
7. Select two videos from this week’s video resources and provide the title and a brief synopsis.
8. In your weekly lesson/module, click on the link titled: “Vox: Transgender Myths Test Your Knowledge.” Review the myths listed and report what myths you think are prevalent in your community/society and how they impact culture, laws, and societal expectations? Any that surprised you?
